Sexless marriage & seeing escorts

Does anyone do it? Do you feel guilty?

I'm in a really happy marriage except sex life wise. The idea of bjs makes my wifes skin crawl and I'm considering using escort services for my needs.

Hi you absolutely should not feel guilty for wanting sex and you will feel totally invigorated

I'm sure I will! I just can't get over the idea of the guilt of sneaking away to see a paid escort. My wife rarely has normal sex with me anymore once or twice a year if that. When we first got together blowjobs were a common thing now they're non existent. I feel guilty when getting a massage after work and refusing the happy ending offered.

But how do you say "Im off out love to get my knob deepthroated I'll be back in time for Strictly' 😆

Could be that your wife is doing the same as your thinking

Her paying escorts for sex?

Not necessarily with escorts but just a thought

Idea of that makes me want to go get what I need/want

Are you an escort? (Just based on your profile picture)

Yes I am

Do any of your clients tell you that they're married? Wondering what the ratio of married vs unmarried might be.

Also am I making a mountain out of a molehill with this?

It should be simple really, she denies it me, I want/need it, someone else provides service, I pay for service. Job done. Blowjob done.

Sometimes but man cannot live on bread alone

There are many reasons why men visit escorts, lack of sex at home being one. Wanting more variety is another. There should be no guilt attached to sex with escorts.

I've got to say that 99% of the men I see are married and don't have sex or very little.

I'm not being funny but some women must live under a rock if they don't know how important sex is, particularly to men. Even if you can't have sex I know plenty of the men I see would just be happy with something but what happens is that with sex the intimacy follows so when one declines so does the other. This job has made me realise that actually most men are pretty loyal and don't do this lightly but a NEED is a NEED

Personally I think you should only feel guilty if you haven't tried to work this out with her. Talk to her about how you feel. I might be an escort but I still think the ideal situation is to sort it out with your wife. If that doesn't work outsource sex and you shouldn't feel guilty.

Okay thanks for your insight

And if I've discussed Blowjobs at length with her and she insistently refuses I don't want to force her ever or make it awkward between us. Am I wrong in just seeking that service from an escort? Keeping the more passionate personal sex between me and her?

Only you can answer that. You are going to get a biased answer asking people invested in a certain outcome.

As Suzanne said, only you can answer that, if the rest of your relationship is strong and healthy, ask yourself is going to an escort for a blowjob really worth it to you especially if you are having guilty thoughts just thinking about it.

Fair point. I feel guilty about getting a massage last at a Thai place and the girl there grabbing my dick before I said I didn't want a hand job. Couldn't be more conflicted over this.

I'm in exactly the same situation and have made my mind up to see an escort

When are you doing it? What made you reach that decision?

As soon as I find someone and complete lack of sex it's been over 2 years now so I feel I have to do something about it